The “….” Year Itch
Nadia Murtaza
We have all been there, whether we choose to admit it or
not. Not in the simplistically explored way that we’ve seen in Marilyn Monroes’
“The Seven Year Itch”; but it does begin to scratch the surface. Most of us; if
not all - just want to scratch, or thoughtlessly go ahead and itch like a
street dog with fleas.
We’ve all heard the argument about how humans are not
monogamous creatures. But what makes any species monogamous? Why can’t we all
just be penguins? My consensus is a little different. We choose what we want to
be; and we can switch back and forth depending on the situation. It’s far too
easy to blame biology (or more popularly: alcohol).
If we view things from the beginning – or maybe that telling
point when two people become exclusive to each other, we couldn’t possibly
imagine wanting to be with someone else: why would you ever put what you have
in such jeopardy?!
Two things : boredom and the constant quest for something
(or in this case someone) better. A
change. A little excitement. As a result, two things can happen: you realize
you are happier in another situation, or , immense regret.
Can you ever go back? No, to be honest; no matter how hard
you try – nothing will ever be the same; and mentally knowing you have gotten
away with something, or have been
forgiven will just give you the freedom to scratch again – whether you really
want to or not.
And then there are those of us that just can’t scratch.
There are those who refrain and just put up with the desire to succumb to the
itch. How righteous and honorable.
But…are these people any better? Mentally battling with yourself to keep from
temptation; continuously having somebody else on your mind; fantasizing about
other situations, other lovers, other lives. Unsatisfied, but loyal to your
partner.
Which is worse – to scratch or not to. Do the damage and
walk away or leave a rash to fester? Ultimately; does a truly monogamous
situation exist (mentally and physically)? In my opinion; it differs from men
to women.
An unfair generalization which I will use as a discussion
point is that men are attracted to beauty and women to mentality. If this is
truly the case – this is to say that all men desire a more “beautiful” version
of their partner as they get older – so mental monogamy is already long gone.
Furthermore, that there are no shallow women who do not physically desire their
partners. Beauty and brains are
subjective to each person – and despite the whole tone of this piece of
writing; I do actually believe; that there is such a thing as “true love” and
monogamy out there.
My question is; which itch is worse to you. The kind that is
addressed or the kind that just continues to go on indefinitely? Do you believe
no matter how you’ve treated other situations in your life that 100% monogamy
exists? Or is it in our human formula to allow our minds to wander?
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