A lot like Lust
Nadia Murtaza
Love.
It’s all we need, right?
How often is love confused with lust? Which do we really want more is probably a better question.
It is all too often that relationships, partnerships and marriages end because of the predictable loss of love, no sex life, boredom.
But, is that not lust? The loss of lust? You see if you still care for someone; as most do even when something comes to an end – that is the ultimate line that is drawn between love and lust, to love is to care, so in saying this – is there no love without lust? Which is really more important?
As superficial as it all sounds, how often can we all remember the excitement of the beginning of something, the pure want, the somewhat beautiful obsession in the craze filled lust and animalism? The passion rising higher than that of the belief in caring, and then suddenly everything changes?
No, it’s not a bad thing, but how often do we just..reminiss..about the simplistic, enjoyment of something? And does that make you shallow?
All you need is love.
In the sixties, love was something a lot wider, less personalized - love everyone, all the time. Free love...confused with free lust? Love without commitment, love that does not need to be tamed, love without pressure. If we were all high all the time, maybe we would really understand the complexity of love and lust..and realize, if we lie to ourselves, that they aren’t the same thing.
When love is lost, you lose somebody. When lust is lost, you lose something.
We have been taught that materialism will only make us unhappy, so why, why, does our existence rely on lust and love? Is just the treasure at the end of the rainbow?
Peace and love. The world would be better if we all loved each other; because we would all care for each other..a world of lust, would be enjoyable but cold…or..would it be steaming..hot…well, at least we’d all be otherwise occupied.
Nadia Murtaza
Love.
It’s all we need, right?
How often is love confused with lust? Which do we really want more is probably a better question.
It is all too often that relationships, partnerships and marriages end because of the predictable loss of love, no sex life, boredom.
But, is that not lust? The loss of lust? You see if you still care for someone; as most do even when something comes to an end – that is the ultimate line that is drawn between love and lust, to love is to care, so in saying this – is there no love without lust? Which is really more important?
As superficial as it all sounds, how often can we all remember the excitement of the beginning of something, the pure want, the somewhat beautiful obsession in the craze filled lust and animalism? The passion rising higher than that of the belief in caring, and then suddenly everything changes?
No, it’s not a bad thing, but how often do we just..reminiss..about the simplistic, enjoyment of something? And does that make you shallow?
All you need is love.
In the sixties, love was something a lot wider, less personalized - love everyone, all the time. Free love...confused with free lust? Love without commitment, love that does not need to be tamed, love without pressure. If we were all high all the time, maybe we would really understand the complexity of love and lust..and realize, if we lie to ourselves, that they aren’t the same thing.
When love is lost, you lose somebody. When lust is lost, you lose something.
We have been taught that materialism will only make us unhappy, so why, why, does our existence rely on lust and love? Is just the treasure at the end of the rainbow?
Peace and love. The world would be better if we all loved each other; because we would all care for each other..a world of lust, would be enjoyable but cold…or..would it be steaming..hot…well, at least we’d all be otherwise occupied.
Many people from the Indian continent and other parts of the world would no doubt argue that arranged marriages, whilst cultural driven rather than religious are a valid reason for keeping a family group together.
ReplyDeleteThe lust driven relationships (which we have all fallen into) are exciting and pure at the beginning - whats wrong with that - nothing providing no-oe gets hurt - the problem is that people do get hurt - babies miraculously appear (never did figure out how that happened - there are too many Storks around here) - pride and emotions wounded; loneliness abounds, mental stress and we are all off and running down the slippery slope to the psychiatrist couch.
The problem is that society demands too much of us - parents want grand children; parents want the right kind of marriage; what will the neighbours say? You are right in the 60's there was a freer atmosphere - couples made love without the handcuffs on - love was in the air - so were a lot of kids and alimony! Lust is here to stay (thank goodness) but love that's another thing. The Buddhists would say that desire is one of the most powerful weapons leading to unhappiness - keep the mind peaceful and quiet through meditation and desire lust can be controlled as we see the reality of life - which brings us back to the beginning - lust great as long as no one gets hurt.